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Kissing is an art and it pretty much decides what your better half thinks about you. A study (not conducted on mice) found that kissing helps us judge potential partners and plays a vital role in a partner staying around, which means that it’s very important to be good at kissing if you want your girl to stay around or impress them.
Here are some very important things to keep in mind so that the first kiss doesn’t result in a stalemate.
Ok this is rule number 1 because you don’t want to kiss a girl if you’ve just had something with garlic or smoked a cigarette. Even if you haven’t, it’s a good idea to pop a mint so that your breath isn’t stinking.
Don’t be nervous
Okay we might as well tell the pigs to start flying but it’s actually important that you don’t become a nervous wreck before the moment. So perhaps you should try what I call the Patronus approach – the spell that helped ward off dementors in the Harry Potter world. The power of the charm came from focussing on your happiest memory. Focus on something positive, something that makes you extremely cheerful and you’ll feel your fears and nervousness melt away.
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Ask her
You’re not asking permission per se but if you have misread the tell-tale signs (playing with her hair, laughing at your lame jokes, looking in your eyes, touching certain body parts) you could get into some major trouble. So ask her something like ‘Would you like me to kiss your right now?’ or ‘I am going to kiss you right now.’ but don’t make it should like you’re taking permission. It’s not always like the movies, where it’s scripted. If she says no, back out right then and there or else it can border on sexual harassment.
Tell her you love her
While keeping it slow, whisper in her ears; letting her know that she’s the most beautiful girl in the world while looking her in the eyes. In fact, whisper in her ear (while it does seem clichéd, there are reasons that clichés get etched in time).
Avoid all forms of distractions
Nothing quite kills the mood like distractions. No girl is going to forgive you, if you aren’t there totally. Switch off your cell phone. Your partner needs to be assured that at that very moment that’s the only place you want to be.
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Move slowly
There are things that ought to be done fast and then there are others which require you to have patience and panache, kissing is one of them. So when you are with the girl (and you notice the signal – hair, eyes, any sign), kiss her gently on the lips and take pauses between kisses. Look into her eyes while doing so and don’t be in a hurry to slip in the tongue.
Explore places
Now after you’ve had the first kiss, you should make sure that you visit more places. The tongue is a highly sensitive organ so use it to your advantage. Kiss her on the neck, ear lobes and other erogenous zones to get her in the mood completely.
Do not think ahead
The normal guy brain is so geared that once he has kissed a girl, he thinks he needs to take it forward. Even the word foreplay implies that it should lead somewhere, but that’s just not the case and taking things too fast might completely ruin the deal. So stick to kissing and necking and see where she wants to go. In fact, leaving things at the foreplay stage might even make your partner hungrier for more.
Use your hands
Now a common problem that afflicts most rookie kissers is what exactly are they supposed to do with their hands? So here’s the deal, use them. Use it to explore her back, graze her waists, grab her hips – basically use your imagination for God’s sake.
Mix things up
Once you’ve got in the groove, mix things up to keep it from getting boring. Be slow and steady at times and fast and furious in others. Use your tongue, teeth, lower and upper lips – the mouth has so many different parts for a reason.
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